What fears have you overcome and how?

I have many fears and I actually use the same approach for all of them. I will step back and ask myself “what is the issue” “how do I adapt to it” “now to do it and overcome” in short identity adapt and overcome.

Words are power so when you put it into a question like this you make yourself think. You remember the fear is ok but letting it control you is not. I had to learn this fairly young because my past is actually pretty dark. However, it took me many years to learn this method which made me very timid. Which is not who I am. At first it started with medical, which I doubt surprises anyone. And it just kind of grew from there. If I can control a multiple casualty situation, in the lead position, I should be able to face anything.

Another thing that has helped me is actually the seven grandfather teachings. You see one of the teachings is bravery and bravery as we all know doesn’t mean not fearing something but doing what we fear instead.

Don’t get me wrong it doesn’t always work however I refuse to give up. Not just because I’m a descendant of a people that they tried to kill and could not but because life is messy. If you can’t accept that, then life will control you instead of you controlling what you can. I can’t control a situation. I can control how I react to it.

Remembering these few small things can help you get through a lot. It got me through going to the doctor as well. Going to the hospital for the first time after I lost my daughter. It has got me through game behind that wheel right after my car crash because everyone thought I was OK. Turned out I wasn’t so OK physically and to this day I still have issues with being near semi trucks so I actually force myself to be. I just make sure I’m not close enough to get a rock chip in my windshield yet again.

The other big time I noticed being able to face and conquer my fears more with that fear the creation of this very website. I get to talk about my fears, I get to talk about my interests, I get to share the chaos of my brain. The fact that people like it and follow me is a huge confidence boost. Which has increased and improved my mental health. And when your mental health starts to improve, you stop fearing quite as much or quite as strongly. Although being neurodivergent can create its own interesting challenges in this area.

It’s all about identifying the issue adapting yourself to it or finding something to help you adapt and for you know what you’ve overcome it. You may have to do it 100 times or more but who cares you’re doing it. And that takes bravery a lot of it. It’s not easy and it’s not meant to be. If there’s anything I have learned through all I have gone through it is that if you step back. Take a breath. And look at things through a different lens there’s not much you can’t do. I’ve also learned not to carry the weight of other people cause I ain’t their bellhop, which is also helped. Decrease my fear. My service dog still has to go to work at times when I find something scary, but that of itself is an adaption. Look around you you’ll see it everywhere. I will freely admit, though that storms still freak me out, especially when they set off the warning systems.

What method do you use?