Tag: AuDHD
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The word no and random thoughts.
I spent last night chasing a single question: what does “no” look like in every language whose word for “no” starts with N, in standard romanization, and when the writing system isn’t Latin, how does it appear in its original script? With only four hours of sleep last night—and maybe twelve combined over the two…
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The Letter That Ends the Silence
What do you send when they’ve ignored every polite request, every reminder, every truth? This post delivers the final piece of the Frost Method trilogy: a direct, professional self-advocacy letter built for escalation. Ready to document your demands before silence turns suffocating? Here’s the template that speaks when they refuse to listen
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Ropes, Recovery, BDSM and Me
What if the thing that quieted your mind wasn’t therapy or sleep—but the strike of a flogger, the structure of a scene, and the rules of kink? I don’t play for thrill—I play to breathe. BDSM gave me control, clarity, and quiet where trauma lived loud. This post shares why kink holds my healing, my…
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Fraud, Fire, and Federal Law: Weapons of an Advocate
Just when sleep was seconds away, a rogue charge sparked an all-night battle. Why are you still being billed for a service you canceled—and couldn’t use to begin with? Join me as I unpack the fury, the facts, and the federal law that turns quiet frustration into unstoppable fire.
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PTSD vs CPTSD plus a Free Rant
Does a sudden crash still echo through your bones, or is it years of neglect that hollowed you? Which trauma begs your attention—PTSD’s jolt or CPTSD’s slow storm?
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Why Aftercare is Essential for BDSM Relationships
I touched on Safewords, Dom space and subspace last week. This week it is the other side of play where aftercare is needed. It may differ but both need this as well as Dom’s can drop just like subs.
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I Speak Many Languages. Masking Follows Me in ALL of Them
I’m multilingual. But behind each language was a mask—until I found the one that didn’t come with trauma. Turns out, fluency isn’t freedom. Identity is.
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ASL Journey
I have mentioned I’m working on learning ASL. I thought it might be fun to share how I’m doing with this. There is also the disturbing thing I want to share with you. Did you know 90% of parents who have a deaf child do not bother to learn ASL? Talk about isolating to put…
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When Talking Takes Everything—And Silence Gives it Back
I spent years performing speech that drained me—now I’ve unmasked the truth. Talking isn’t connection for me—it’s exhaustion, confusion, and finally… freedom
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No Therapy, Still Broken: How Escaping ABA Didn’t Mean I Was Safe
Speech became performance. Silence felt wrong. But avoiding therapy didn’t mean escaping harm—it just meant the trauma wore a mask too. This is what verbal masking really costs.
Who am I? 