Tag: BDSM

• Ropes, Recovery, BDSM and Me

  

  What if the thing that quieted your mind wasn’t therapy or sleep—but the strike of a flogger, the structure of a scene, and the rules of kink? I don’t play for thrill—I play to breathe. BDSM gave me control, clarity, and quiet where trauma lived loud. This post shares why kink holds my healing, my…

  ❄️Siearra Frost❄️

  August 1, 2025

  Adult Topics, kink

  Abuse, ADHD, ASD, AuDHD, Autism, BDSM, boundaries, calm, catharsis, chaos, choice, communication, connection, Consent Culture, Coping mechanism, cptsd, cutting, damage, dealbreaker, Dominate, Dopamine, emotional release, endorphins, healing, honesty, identity, info dump, intimacy, kink, kinksters, Life, Mental Health, neurochemical, neurodivergent, Pain, peace, punishment, RACK, reenacting, responsibility, rewriting, rules, sacred, Safewords, self harm, silence, SSC, structure, Submissive, Submissive Voice, survive, survivor story, Switch, trauma, trauma recovery, triggered, trust, truth, Vetting, weakness, why, writing

• Why Aftercare is Essential for BDSM Relationships

  

  I touched on Safewords, Dom space and subspace last week. This week it is the other side of play where aftercare is needed. It may differ but both need this as well as Dom’s can drop just like subs.

  ❄️Siearra Frost❄️

  July 25, 2025

  Adult Topics, kink

  aftercare, AuDHD, BDSM, chaos, connection, differences, Dom drop, Dom space, Dominate, Dopamine, kink, Life, love, Mental Health, RACK, SSC, sub drop, sub space, Submissive, writing

• Why Dominants Must Use Safe Words

  

  The other day I ran across something rather shocking. “Dom’s don’t need a safe word”. This covers why they do in the broader sense and it touches on other safety aspects.

  ❄️Siearra Frost❄️

  July 18, 2025

  Adult Topics, kink

  BDSM, chaos, consent, Dom space, Dominate, health, informed consent, kink, Life, love, Mental Health, Power Exchange, RACK, relationships, safety, Safewords, SSC, Submissive, Subspace

• Why I Wait to Meet: The Neurodivergent Perspective

  

  My way of navigating meeting new people. I am neurodivergent to say the least and that means my approach is different. This is my way and the why of it. This is written in a kink perspective but applies in all areas of meeting new people.

  ❄️Siearra Frost❄️

  June 20, 2025

  Adult Topics, kink

  acceptance and growth, ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, BDSM, chaos, Dopamine, kink, Life, love, Meeting New People, Mental Health