Tag: kink
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Ropes, Recovery, BDSM and Me
What if the thing that quieted your mind wasn’t therapy or sleep—but the strike of a flogger, the structure of a scene, and the rules of kink? I don’t play for thrill—I play to breathe. BDSM gave me control, clarity, and quiet where trauma lived loud. This post shares why kink holds my healing, my…
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Why Aftercare is Essential for BDSM Relationships
I touched on Safewords, Dom space and subspace last week. This week it is the other side of play where aftercare is needed. It may differ but both need this as well as Dom’s can drop just like subs.
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Why Dominants Must Use Safe Words
The other day I ran across something rather shocking. “Dom’s don’t need a safe word”. This covers why they do in the broader sense and it touches on other safety aspects.
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Meltdowns in Kink: This Isn’t Just a Neurodivergent Thing—It’s a Human One
Meltdowns, those who are neurodiverse get a name for this when it in reality happens to many especially in play with kink. These are things that help me, and they are different depending on what is going on. This is why communication is so vital.
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Acceptance for the First Time
What I look forward to is acceptance because of what it leads to. This is one of my heavier posts, I talk about how lack of acceptance has lead to abuse, mental health problems, people pleasing and the dangers there. I also talk about a group of people have shown me what acceptance really is.
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Kink and Emotional Safety: Building Trust in Connections
Emotional safety is a bit different for me. Kink is an area that it is really important that this is understood and I explain why that is for me, hopefully this helps you understand one aspect of neurodivergence with communication in kink and how it actually helps.
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The Importance of Honesty in Kink Relationships
I have been told by some I overshare. It is who I am, I am not my diagnosis especially when it comes to Kink. I dig deep, I know my stuff, and my communication style helps there if you look past the surface.
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A Personal Journey: Regulation with Kink
This is to give you my perspective with the things I have learned. I do try to vet things however I am human and make mistakes to. I want to educate and make all parts of life more accepting and I believe that is done through education.
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Why I Wait to Meet: The Neurodivergent Perspective
My way of navigating meeting new people. I am neurodivergent to say the least and that means my approach is different. This is my way and the why of it. This is written in a kink perspective but applies in all areas of meeting new people.
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Finding Stability Through Kink and Chaos
This post took a fair bit of encouragement from my pack. It is not easy to speak of something that is controversial however I will not lie about who I am, this is me staying true to the promise of being transparent.
Who am I? 